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Then, he changed his shirt in hurry and came late to the meeting. At the meeting, he realized that he forgot to bring his files which is needed for the meeting. He left his files on the bed when he changed his attire in hurry. He was getting a notification letter from his boss because of being reckless. He became so angry and so upset. And then, he left the meeting room emotionally. When lunch time came, he suddenly realized that he also forgot to bring his wallet. It left in his this-morning-trousers’ pocket. He couldn’t buy any food to eat. He was getting more upset. He couldn’t think clearly right now. When he was on the way home, he’s so emotional. So, he drove his car very careless and he hit a woman.
I think it is because of the father’s reaction towards the things happened. What if he calmed himself and tried not to get upset? What if he said,” It is okay, Floe! You didn’t do that on purpose. Don’t cry. I just need to change my clothes and everything will be fine.”? What do you think would happen? The father wouldn’t have been late since he didn’t waste his time scolding his daughter. And he wouldn’t have left his files and wallet. So, he wouldn’t have either missed his lunch or got a notification letter. Further, he wouldn’t have hit a woman since he would have been driving home safely.
So, what is the point? The point is that our life mostly are not influenced by bad things happened but are really influenced by our reaction towards them. Most of the time, we choose to get angry, to feel disappointed, and, eventually, to make the wrong decision. Then, we will get the impact of our reaction, either bad result or good one. If the result is bad, we will start to complain and blame the events. We forgot the “our reaction” part. Perhaps, blaming something or someone could make everything become so easy for us. I just don’t know.
I was thinking about everything happened in life. Then, I came up with questions.
How much do they contribute to what I am right now?
Or what will I become when they did not happen?
I had no answer for those. Not until I read this. At least, I have something to say if I have to answer those questions.
Simply said, all things happened in my life contribute 10% and my reactions towards them contribute 90%. So, what action is going through your head, then?
Regard to what my friend wrote about On Learning and Doing What You Love, I am triggered to write something about that. Certainly, it will be another point of view.
Off to the topic. I totally agree with point brought in the posting. Stop learning after college and looking for the best-offerings company have been the stereotype for majority of college student. Though, they do not know whether what they’re doing right now is what they love or not.
Ideally, they should love what they do. They should choose something they love since they will be fighting for it in the rest of their life. But, some of them, sometimes, have a situation, a condition that leaves them no option. Perhaps, some of them do realize that what they are doing right now is something they don’t love. But they must do it.
For the sake of clearness, allow me offer you an illustration. I am facing the choices of occupation. They are a lecturer and customer insight manager. I love being a lecturer. That is my dream. But, right now, I need money to afford things in life. My family needs my support. My little brother has not finished his college and my parents are running out of some cash right now. Being a lecturer would be a wrong choice at that time. Even though, I don’t love being a customer insight manager. For a matter of fact, it supplies me and my family more than enough. Eventually, the situation leaves me with no option, does it?
I do suggest you to do what you love. But, we can’t do that sometimes. Life is about choices. Let me take another example. Anne and Lucy were separated since their parents decided to divorce. Their parents’ divorce was triggered by his mother’s affair with another man. Anne, first, chose to go with daddy, and Lucy chose to go with mom. After ten years, Anne lives in wealthy and Lucy lives in a poor family. What do you think?
Lucy chose the wrong side? Do you think Lucy really wanted to choose to be with her mother? No. Anne picked her side first. It is to be with her father. Then, the situation made Lucy got no option. She couldn’t leave their mother alone. She had to choose her, although she didn’t like to.
What I am trying to say above is sometimes we could not do what we love; we could not get what we want, and so on. But, still, choices are right there for us to pick. Whatever the choices would be, we should choose something for our own good.
Fellow readers, like I said before, I totally agree with doing something I love rather than something I don’t. But let me complete it with my point of view as written up there. Conclusion, do what you love or love what you do! Whatever we do as long as it is good for us and anyone else, it will bring something in return. Since we were born to be great, weren’t we?
See you at the top!
"She is part of your life but she is not the whole part of it."
That's what my friend said to his best friend. His best friend totally changed since he got a new girlfriend. He spent the whole time of his life for this lady. And he forgot to take care of his academic things, friends, etc.
I am not going to tell you a story about him. I am going to discuss about the quote. Let me rewrite the quote for you in a different version, of course.
"........ is part of your life but ........ is not the whole part of it."
Then, fill in the blanks, please! The words "She", it could refer anything or anyone. It could be our hobby; it could be our special person. Some of us (maybe most of us) have something to fill into the blanks. It is normal because we tend to focus on something. But we also forget about many things in our life.
In my perfect version of life:
We can spend most of our time studying something, but not the whole of it.
We can spend most of our time playing basketball, but not the whole of it.
We can spend most of our time with our lover, but not the whole of it.
What I am trying to say is we really can get into something we love, but we aren't supposed to forget our duty, our liabilities, our calling because of it.
At the bottom line, life should be balance. How to do it? You are the one who got the answer for your own life.
So, "get a life, bro!"
A friend of mine said a great quote, "My motto is to give most values for others". He said that after telling me about his decision to move from Mac Kinsey into BRR (Reconstruction Company for Aceh and Nias). FYI, Mac Kinsey is a company which can pay him five times greater than BRR. Simply said, normal people would never and ever make that decision, since people still need those amounts of money to afford things in their life. But, this man made it. The only reason he had is by joining BRR; he could share most values for others.
Another story is about my friend's cousin. He had a dream. He wanted to be a doctor. On the contrary, his parents wanted him to continue family business. But he insisted to learn about medics. Eventually, he graduated from a good university in
Fellow readers, do you see it coming? World around us is changing rapidly. We are on our way of losing people who would risk their life and give most values for others. Basically, people are self-centered. Look at the fact, in 1980s, people was being busy writing about sciences, technology and religions. And just some of them wrote the autograph books (books which tell a life story of the author). In a decade, it has been changing rapidly. It is found more than 50 people wrote autograph books. And, vice versa, some of them still write about sciences, technology and religions.
Truly speaking, there is no legal norm or rule which emphasizes whether it is wrong or not. But, it is not a matter. The matter I concern is people forgot to give values for others, to share joy for others. That is the missing one. People, nowadays, are kept busy by his dream. And, again, I don't know what is right and what is wrong. What I do know is people I told you their stories above are a great man. And, somehow, I just believe that there are so many people outside there who will do the same thing. I hope I will, too.
Because people around me have made me who I am right now.
"Tell me what you eat and then I will tell you what you are"
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