Do What You Love or Love What You Do?

Regard to what my friend wrote about On Learning and Doing What You Love, I am triggered to write something about that. Certainly, it will be another point of view.

Off to the topic. I totally agree with point brought in the posting. Stop learning after college and looking for the best-offerings company have been the stereotype for majority of college student. Though, they do not know whether what they’re doing right now is what they love or not.

Ideally, they should love what they do. They should choose something they love since they will be fighting for it in the rest of their life. But, some of them, sometimes, have a situation, a condition that leaves them no option. Perhaps, some of them do realize that what they are doing right now is something they don’t love. But they must do it.

For the sake of clearness, allow me offer you an illustration. I am facing the choices of occupation. They are a lecturer and customer insight manager. I love being a lecturer. That is my dream. But, right now, I need money to afford things in life. My family needs my support. My little brother has not finished his college and my parents are running out of some cash right now. Being a lecturer would be a wrong choice at that time. Even though, I don’t love being a customer insight manager. For a matter of fact, it supplies me and my family more than enough. Eventually, the situation leaves me with no option, does it?

I do suggest you to do what you love. But, we can’t do that sometimes. Life is about choices. Let me take another example. Anne and Lucy were separated since their parents decided to divorce. Their parents’ divorce was triggered by his mother’s affair with another man. Anne, first, chose to go with daddy, and Lucy chose to go with mom. After ten years, Anne lives in wealthy and Lucy lives in a poor family. What do you think?

Lucy chose the wrong side? Do you think Lucy really wanted to choose to be with her mother? No. Anne picked her side first. It is to be with her father. Then, the situation made Lucy got no option. She couldn’t leave their mother alone. She had to choose her, although she didn’t like to.

What I am trying to say above is sometimes we could not do what we love; we could not get what we want, and so on. But, still, choices are right there for us to pick. Whatever the choices would be, we should choose something for our own good.

Fellow readers, like I said before, I totally agree with doing something I love rather than something I don’t. But let me complete it with my point of view as written up there. Conclusion, do what you love or love what you do! Whatever we do as long as it is good for us and anyone else, it will bring something in return. Since we were born to be great, weren’t we?

See you at the top!

For I Know That You Care

I ran from the water
and I walked down the road
My head in a dizzy
loving voice in my head

I know You can hear me
And I know that You're there
My hope will surround me
for I know that You care

The silence is haunting
down the road in my head
my heart has been longing
So, won't You find me,instead?

I know You can hear me
And I know that You're there
My hope will surround me
for I know that You care

I just know that you can hear...
I just know that you care..

With Love,
AtMoSpHeRe-1024

Part of Life ≠ Whole Part of Life

"She is part of your life but she is not the whole part of it."

That's what my friend said to his best friend. His best friend totally changed since he got a new girlfriend. He spent the whole time of his life for this lady. And he forgot to take care of his academic things, friends, etc.

I am not going to tell you a story about him. I am going to discuss about the quote. Let me rewrite the quote for you in a different version, of course.

"........ is part of your life but ........ is not the whole part of it."

Then, fill in the blanks, please! The words "She", it could refer anything or anyone. It could be our hobby; it could be our special person. Some of us (maybe most of us) have something to fill into the blanks. It is normal because we tend to focus on something. But we also forget about many things in our life.

In my perfect version of life:

We can spend most of our time studying something, but not the whole of it.

We can spend most of our time playing basketball, but not the whole of it.

We can spend most of our time with our lover, but not the whole of it.

What I am trying to say is we really can get into something we love, but we aren't supposed to forget our duty, our liabilities, our calling because of it.

At the bottom line, life should be balance. How to do it? You are the one who got the answer for your own life.

So, "get a life, bro!"

A Story of Life

A friend of mine said a great quote, "My motto is to give most values for others". He said that after telling me about his decision to move from Mac Kinsey into BRR (Reconstruction Company for Aceh and Nias). FYI, Mac Kinsey is a company which can pay him five times greater than BRR. Simply said, normal people would never and ever make that decision, since people still need those amounts of money to afford things in their life. But, this man made it. The only reason he had is by joining BRR; he could share most values for others.

Another story is about my friend's cousin. He had a dream. He wanted to be a doctor. On the contrary, his parents wanted him to continue family business. But he insisted to learn about medics. Eventually, he graduated from a good university in Indonesia. Then, he got a job in Africa, being a doctor. In the region he's assigned, there was a war. One day, he found a wounded soldier in a middle of war. Nobody wanted to risk their life to save the soldier. Instead of seeing the soldier bleed to death, he risked himself to carry the soldier on the back and brought him to safe place. Unfortunately, right before he got the soldier to the safe place. He got shot to death.

Fellow readers, do you see it coming? World around us is changing rapidly. We are on our way of losing people who would risk their life and give most values for others. Basically, people are self-centered. Look at the fact, in 1980s, people was being busy writing about sciences, technology and religions. And just some of them wrote the autograph books (books which tell a life story of the author). In a decade, it has been changing rapidly. It is found more than 50 people wrote autograph books. And, vice versa, some of them still write about sciences, technology and religions.

Truly speaking, there is no legal norm or rule which emphasizes whether it is wrong or not. But, it is not a matter. The matter I concern is people forgot to give values for others, to share joy for others. That is the missing one. People, nowadays, are kept busy by his dream. And, again, I don't know what is right and what is wrong. What I do know is people I told you their stories above are a great man. And, somehow, I just believe that there are so many people outside there who will do the same thing. I hope I will, too.

Because people around me have made me who I am right now.

"Tell me what you eat and then I will tell you what you are"

End of Year: Time of Reflection

Now, we are really at the end of the year. In a matter of days, we are going to change our habit from writing down "07" to writing down "08".He-he.

Ok. Let's just cut the crap and off to the topic, I was spending my time in front of my computer during this damn holiday. I was trying to organize my folders and data. I am putting my files into a year-based-folder and I also erased unused files in order to spare free spaces for my disk. In simple words, I have been dating with a laptop!!

As I was busy with my new date, something just came up to my mind. It's like a question that needs no answer. But I just felt that it was interesting to discuss. The question is "Why doesn’t God make life like a folder or files?” So, we can delete the life we don’t want to remember, or we just edit our life when something we dislike happens. Or we can just undo our life whenever we made a wrong decision. (If you don't understand what I meant, try to watch CLICK! It talks about "fast forwarding" life.)

The latter, actually, it’s my favorite feature. UNDO!! Yeah, it is cool, isn't it? If I had that feature in my life, I would never be afraid of making any wrong decision. Further, I just could do something wrong and then UNDO again. Ha-ha. It is very interesting. Then, I would have never heard of terms they called "REGRETS".

But actually, the following question is "Am I really need it?" Or, "What am I going to be if I had the feature in my life?” I will love the feature until I found that I would never grow up. I won't just loss regrets but I will also lose the feelings. The feeling of learning something from my mistake, the feeling of taking all the blame for someone you care about, the feeling of losing a game, or maybe the feeling of losing someone precious in my life.

Yet, those feelings have made me who I am right now. Since those made me understand how great something will be. Like, I know that it is great to be a winner, since I know how bad it feels as a loser. I know how great to have someone in your life, since I know how sad being alone in this life. See?! I am learning from what I have been through. Probably, I need none of those features in my life. I’d rather sick of all those emotions things than live a life like a zombie. UNDO is just needed for the files!!! He-he.

What I am trying to say is: At the end of the year, I have been reminded of my yesterday through those questions about folders. I always assume that life would be the same. Things live and die, grow on decay. I am wondering why I can’t just remain. Next year might be filled by sorrow or lots of joy. And there’s no certain of what will be. And you know what, uncertainties is what we cannot see.

I found there are nothing much I can mend, nothing I could undo, and nothing I could edit about my past and my future. It is all in His wonderful plan. There is nothing much I can do about my life, but lay it to His hands. Perhaps, I need to change. Perhaps, change is good for me. What I do know is I have to change into something brand new. Therefore, let Him take over me. Then, I will find my future wonderful next year. Amen.

Merry Christmas 2007 and Happy New Year 2008!!

Penemuan Hebat

Saya terinspirasi oleh temen saya Aldud yang ngepost tentang Jenius! nya dia. Sekarang saya akan ngepost tentang "penemuan hebat" saya..

#1 Celana Dalam = Selamat Malam
Pada suatu malam, saya beranjak pergi dari sebuah mall di bandung. Sampai parkiran, saya bayar karcis parkir dan saya tunjukkan STNK pada petugas yang ada di kotak 1x1 meter itu. Lalu, saya ucapkan salam dengan sedikit pelan *niat mengerjai* "Celana Dalam, Pak!!!!".. Si petugas yang gak tau pikun atawa budeg malah membalas salam saya dengan hangat, "Selamat Malam, Dek!!Hati-hati ya!!" WAQS!! Ternyata Celana Dalam sama dengan Selamat Malam ya?? Fakta ini sudah dibuktikan oleh orang lain juga.

#2 Wanita gak selamanya lembut (lembu iya!!)
Lelah berkutat dengan institut negeri (yang cewe2 nya under construction semua), sepulang kuliah, saya pergi mampir di universitas swasta. Maksudnya sih mau ketemu teman. Sesampainya disana, ketemu ama wanita cantik lagi kebingungan mencari gedung. Saya kebetulan lewat ditanyain. Hm, saya kan bukan mahasiswa sini?!!Akhirnya, karena niat mengerjain lebih tinggi dari niat ngebantu..(hitung2 gak ada yang kenal di kampus ini) saya ngerjain tuh cewe

Mba : "Maaf, nanya, gedung ini dmana ya?"
Ben : "oh, wastafel?!tuh ada dikantin mba!"*dengan tmpang bego*
Mba :(dikirain gak denger) "Bukan!Gedung ini dmana ya?"
Ben : (masih keliatan bego) "Oh, saya kira wastafel..Si Edo mah gak kenal sayanya ,mba!!" *ngeloyor pergi*
Mba : (masih belom ngerasa dikerjain) "Mas, ini lho..Gedung Ekonomi!!!"
Ben : "oo, kalo yang ini Sipil..nah yang itu, Hukum..kalo di tengah-tengah, itu gedung rektorat..(si mba masi berharap dia menemukan jawaban)..mm, tapi kalo ekonomi sih, saya gak tau mba.."
Mba : "anjing lu!!bilang dari tadi kek" (ngerasa dikerjain)

Nah,sapa bilang cewe selalu lembu?eh lembut?

#3 Douwes Deker tidak sama dengan Multatuli
Di suatu sesi kelas waktu SMA, saya punya keahlian tidur khusus untuk beberapa mata pelajaran. Salah satunya adalah Sejarah. Suatu saat, di sela-sela saya menikmati indah mimpi bersama Dian Sastro Hamengkubuwono Cipto Susanto (nih nama lengkapnya!), si guru menyadari perbuatan saya dan kemudian memanggil saya.

Guru : "Benganteng, ngapaen kaoo?(logat Batak pastinya)"
Ehm : "Eeeh.."*gugup tak bergerak*
Guru : "Coba kao jawab!!Sapa nama Indonesia Douwes Deker?"
(mendengar pertanyaan kelas dunia seperti ini, saya langsung memeras otak)
Ehm : "Eeehh,eeh,eeh,eeh (terus aja gitu ampe kiamat)"
Guru : "Sapa?" (sambil menyingsingkan lengan bajunya - disadur dari lirik lagu perjuangan "Bangun Pemuda-Pemudi")
Ehm : (sambil setengah putus asa) "Mas Douwes, Pak?"
3.....2.....1.....
Guru : "Huahahahahuhahhha.........."*lupa menghukum*

Nah, tuh guru gak bilang salah jawaban g. Alhasil, di ujian g juga nulis jawaban itu..

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